Realizing the Outrageous Mankind

I thought for thousand times before writing this blog as this is something which we all ignore or in other words won’t bother in our day to day life. Kindly do not presume that I am a doctor or psychologist or any sought of expert on this peculiar subject. But I strongly believe that I have documented here something I have keenly witnessed, read and experienced in my own life. I thought it is my responsibility to deliver my thought to wake up my society at least to realize the most outrageous character we are slowly developing inside us. For people who have read my articles before may find little restless after reading this blog and I can guarantee that you will remember it then and there from now on in your future. Most importantly you will start observing the behaviours of others a lot that will bring the fear inside you about the society we are living in.

Let me start on this on a lighter note.

A couple of months back I was watching a movie in my hometown with my family in a movie theatre. This movie was running well and hence we decided to go for it. The best part in that part movie was both the hero and the villain were given equal importance. The Villain of that movie was characterized in such a way that he  is a brainy and does all the criminal activities to make money. The scenes and dialogues were presented in such a way that at one stage the audience started clapping for the villain instead for the hero.  In Fact  there was a song as well in the movie based on the villain’s  punch dialogues which became a great hit. The movie was a great hit as well. The interesting part is, those dialogues from the villain were praising the negativity around us and what all actions one can do to achieve what he wants in life. Basically the point conveyed was “Bad always wins“. But if you see the recognition it has got……I hope you are getting what I am trying to convey. Just like everyone else, I didn’t take this so serious and I thought it’s the credit given to the villain based on his performance which could also be one of the reason.

Let me get in to little more deeper on this.

A month back I was watching a video presentation in which Patrick Lencioni the Author of the best selling book book “Five Dysfunctions of Team” was presenting about leadership qulities. During his session he said and I quote “when I wanted to name my book, I thought  why would I name a book something like “The Five best ways to Improve a Team” which is not catchy at all and who would like it. So  let me name it as “Five dysfunctions of a team” which will increase the curiosity for the readers.”  Now when I heard this , I got surprised and that’s the time I started thinking about it even more deeply. Now you might say that it is a marketing technique and it is quite common in the present world. But if you think in the other way, why this type of marketing is getting successful? Do we start liking negativity?

I wanted to test that immediately. After reaching my home I asked my wife to answer me quickly a question. The Question I put to her was “Which one will you pick to read if you see two news in a newspaper printed together? 1) A Poor farmer’s daughter gets top rank in Academics. 2) A college student killed her professor who tried to molest her.  Surprisingly and shockingly her option was 2. I put this question to two of my other friends as well.  Unfortunately no difference in the answer. Now I am even more disturbed. I was in a shell shock that I didn’t realize this all these days  or I have ignored it.

Let’s get even more deeper.

If you have an addiction to popular social medias like Youtube, whatsapp or Facebook, you might notice this. If you receive a video or post with disturbing or violent actions, your inner voice will tempt you to watch it and then later want to feel for it. But you won’t stop watching it and beyond to that, you will even share it with others. This is what the beginning stage of so called Sadistic Personality Development. Despite discouraging the inappropriate actions in the video you will be curious to watch till the end and share it. And the interesting part is such videos will have a detailed description or title name of the inappropriate action inside the video.  The description/title is not to keep the audience aware of the content, but to increase their curiosity. And shockingly this works. More and more such videos are uploaded to earn more clicks, likes and views. In most of the time, we even will not care about the integrity and authenticity of the information we receive, we immediately forward them out of curiosity.  We are slowly conquered without our conscious.

Another example would be,  if there is a heated argument between two persons in a road side and when you are crossing by that, you will be more  interested to stand by and listen to that. Deep inside your mind, you would expect the argument to end up in a fight and then explaining that incident later to your friends will be your ultimate satisfaction. I am sure many of you would have experienced it but would have not noticed this weird behaviour inside you.   You would have seen in television as well where some people try to record with their mobile phones in incidents like a guy suffering from severe pain in a road accident, a vehicle catching fire or a person by mistake fell inside a Tiger cage and get attacked. Why didn’t those people focus on helping the victim instead of clicking snaps.

Once my Wife’s friend was telling her in a get together that she will beat her kid if she does something naughty. If the kid doesn’t cry, she will continue to beat her till she cries. Once the kid started crying , she will stop beating and  start pampering her. Don’t you find this weird. Yes it is and she didn’t realize her problem. Many of us do so.

People who are living a comfortable life having three times healthy food, good clothes to wear and a good shelter to reside are still affected by this problem. It doesn’t matter what kind of luxurious life we are living, the percentage of this sadistic behaviour is keep increasing among us.

Now let’s talk about the solution for this which is very hard to conclude.

According to a famous British Psychologist Dr. Graham Davey and I quote “Negative news can significantly change an individual’s mood — especially if there is a tendency in the news broadcasts to emphasize suffering and also the emotional components of the story”

A famous study says that being frequently exposed to graphic, uncensored images of violence is emotionally distressing to many journalists working in newsroom settings. The journalists who were regularly exposed to violent video footage scored higher on indexes of post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD)– including re-experiencing, avoidance and general anxiety — as well as increased alcohol consumption, depression, and somatization (physical signs of distress in the body).

The first step we need to do is to protect our next generation kids from such negativity. Kids addicted to social medias will definitely improve the signs of Sadistic personality development.

The best medicine I could imagine for now to cure this would be Meditation. With proper and regular Mediation, gradually we can keep this behaviour under control.

Together let us all focus on bringing a new society and young generation  that buries the hate, shower the love and care for each other.

Thank you.

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A Beautiful Sunset

As usual one morning, I was reading newspaper and waiting for my wife to get me a cup of tea. I usually won’t get it immediately as she will be always flying to get my kids ready to school, It is so called a “Peak hour” :-).  But I understand her situation and will keep up my patience to turn her attention towards me. After some time seeing my pity face she recollects my request and will get me a tea. But on that day she was looking even more tensed. When I enquired about it, she was telling that our Cook won’t be coming for the next two days and she is scared of managing my kids to get ready to school.  For one second that reminded me of my grandma who used to get me ready to school at the age of 60 without much electronic items to help her.

“Yes sir, I have to go to my hometown for some personal work. It’s been a torture since this government came. we are restless” my cook told me in a low voice. I was little surprised with her statement and asked her politely “Aunty, is there anything that we can help? Do you need money?”

She replied” No Sir, I don’t need money. this is something related to the recent government rule to link our Ration card with Aadhar card.”

I was even more amused. “Aunty that can be done simply. why is it so annoying for you? If you want I can check to see if there is any option to do it through internet (online). ”

“No sir, the problem is now I have to cancel my another ration card in my native as I cant link my Aadhar card with two ration cards with my name. That’s why I am travelling to my native to cancel that one which is tedious process sir” She worried.

“So you were having two ration cards all these days ?” I asked her,

“Not only me Sir, many people have it. Poor people are always a target for this Government Sir. Politicians will do all looting and there will be no rule to control them. But we are soft targets for the government. what to do?” She started moving out by justifying herself.

I was smiling inside to see why intolerance in our country is high :-). But I was also considering the fact that her poverty and illiteracy is what making her to talk so by justifying her misuse of ration card and calling her innocent comparing to our politicians. She thinks that there is nothing wrong in what she was doing all these days. Despite that, she is not ready to accept the fact that it is a process of removing the duplicate ration cards and to serve the people even more better, No comments on it further. My wife yelled at me  “The school bus will leave in some time. please move fast”. I didn’t get my tea on that day.

11 AM @ office. “It is innovation which will drive our future, lets think beyond and out of the box to address our Customer challenges. Think of the problems around you and try to solve them rather complaining.” our company CEO was giving an amazing speech. It was for sure motivational. When I was just coming out of the meeting, a colleague working in another department called me. I knew him for many years,

“Hey buddy, need a quick help from you. I am looking ahead to complete a certification on Virtualization technology by this month. Do you know someone who already completed this in your team?” he was curious.

“Hey ! It is great to see you looking forward to complete a certification on a new technology. But why do you want to complete it only by this month? Do you have any project coming up to prepare yourself? Have you started preparing for it a while back? I asked.

“Bro, Its the appraisal time, I gotta get one done. I also need some money as well, I need dumps to get it done by this month.  I will get knowledge around it later.” he was  unstoppable. “Are you not aware of the certification process?”

“If you want to complete a certification on a so and so technology, I would suggest you to first get some working experience on it,  Second, get deep dive knowledge, Third go for the exam with that in depth knowledge”. I started arguing with him.

“Bro!!, you are not new to this industry, First, if someone is planning to do certification on your terms, he won’t complete even one in his lifetime. No one in this industry would be,  Second, you need to have these certification tags around you to sustain in this industry. I don’t have any problem if you are not agreeing to it, Just give me some point of contacts” he was little impatient now as I have seriously touched his ego.

This is completely a different mindset compared to what I heard from my CEO five minutes back. It can be compared with the Grade 12 students studying only to get marks and seats in medical/engineering colleges.  Many of us spend 25% of our time in working at our assigned tasks and rest of the 75% in finding ways to appease or pamper someone. Without further argument I told him “I will get back to you with the point of contact.”.

@4:30 PM. The traffic was heavy on my way to home. I was waiting for the signal to go green. A guy in a costly car behind me was continuously honking at me to give away some space so that he can cross the road, I pointed him the red signal. It was still 15 more second left to go green. Once the signal was on, he overtook and scolded me in a bad language.

@5.30 PM. I was walking at my apartments open terrace enjoying the evening breeze.  The sun was dipping down. It was a beautiful sight to see. After showing all the aggressiveness in the midday, it was on its way to take rest. It was a perfect time for relaxation. The time when your body relaxes and allows the brain to explore and revise. I was remembering the three incidents that happened on that day.  In the first incident, it was poverty and illiteracy which I thought is the root cause of the botching. In the second incident, it is  insecurity and greed. The third incident is completely about being selfish and unprofessional. So education is nowhere in this picture which we can claim to be a reason.

It is seriously not the external factors, but the human nature that changes according to the situation.  When we advice our kids, we tell them to be honest, sincere, professional and not greedy, But if we take a look at our life , not sure how many times we follow it. Since we are adults we have thousands of reasons to justify ourselves. One of my friend once told me that she wants her kids to get in to a government job. When I asked her why, the reason she pointed is “job security & power”. We are not realizing the fact that our negative vibrations and closed mindset will slowly impact our next generation kids. Do we have the guts to tell our kids that we are misusing our Government Subsidy claiming our poverty as reason, we used some dumps to clear an exam for promotion, we used some backdoor entries in order to achieve something in our career. To keep up our credibility for sure we won’t speak out about these even to our spouse. Its funny that we want our kids to be a Mahatma Gandhi where as we choose not to follow him. I concluded that If survival is the only focus for human, I believe we are digging our own graveyard for our next generation.

It started darkening. The sun was almost disappearing showing signs to me  like ” I am proud for doing my work today perfectly and at the same time not compromising to anyone.  I will take some rest now and will come back tomorrow with the same energy and intention.”

That evening was truly a great experience for me to uncover the hidden truth behind the theory so called “survival of the fittest”.

I am sure many of you reading this won’t agree to my views or may find it uncomfortable. But unfortunately that’s the bitter reality,

 

Thank you. See you next time with a different context.

GOD – Definition Revealed

 

It was a Saturday evening. We were getting ready to go to Temple. I remember my wife was shrieking at me since morning that we have missed temple visit for almost 2 weeks. We shouldn’t miss it today at any chance. We generally go to the temple near by. Not sure why? Maybe because of the graceful architecture, unique ambience and from my elder son’s perspective delicious Prasada offered after the darshan. Also selecting the temple to go also depends on our social status nowadays. Some of the temples , because of their sophisticated appearance indirectly restricts by building a hesitation on the lower middle class as well as the below poverty line people to enter. They strongly believe that GOD inside those kind of temple is strictly for upper class and upper middle class people.

“Shall we leave, it’s already late” my wife urged me. We started from home. On the way my wife asked me to stop in front of a pooja store. She wanted to buy some pooja items to to get a special Darshan in the temple.

After watching the scene, my eight year old son asked me. “Dad, why are we buying these puja items?”.

“Its for special puja which will make the God happy” I replied.

“So the God is not happy now?” he was very quick to get back.

“Not like that, Ah…it is a kind of seeking attention from God.” I know I am trembling inside.

“But why do we need a special darshan? God will not pay attention to us otherwise?”  he questioned me back.

Well I started realizing that he is growing and I can’t give dumb reasons or an hypothetical answer to convince him. And this is because it’s me who asked him to think logic and question anything and everything he go through in his life. I am facing the consequences now for what I told him. But I don’t want to let my ego down. I told him “It’s not compulsory. It’s our desire and self satisfaction. God is not expecting anything from us. Since we have money, we can offer this to God to get his blessings. Poor people who don’t have money are not required to do such. It purely depends on our wish.”

“But Dad, in that case are we not trying to prove that we have money and that’s why we are trying to seek attention from God in front of the poor?” He was going deeper and deeper now. I know his age is too less. But the technologies and media in this modern world making these kids too matured at young age.

I wanted to give him a firm answer this time so that he will stop asking further questions. I don’t want to mind even if it is tough for him to understand.

“Understand clearly, This is a system which we are following for ages. This kind of system keeps the money floating between rich and poor. Because of such procedures, we are spending the money what we have. Else, the money won’t go to other people and the economy will not sustain. If you see now, the puja items are sold by a poor shopkeeper who will get some money to run his family. So he will be happy. Our special puja is indirectly helping his survival. Got it?” I told this answer knowing the fact that he is too small to understand this. Also I knew from the bottom of the heart that this explanation is something I gave him just to wind up the conversation and we were certainly not buying puja items to run this economy.

My wife was done with the puja shopping. I was desperately waiting for her to come back to proceed to temple. Actually to escape from my son’s questions.

We rushed to the temple. It was crowded as expected as it was a saturday. we went in a lengthy queue to get inside the temple and we had a good darshan with special puja. I told my son to wish to the God to give him good knowledge, kindness, wealth & health. After the special puja, we entered the queue for delicious prasada. My son was so excited. When we were tasting it sitting aside , my son started again his enquiry (kind of).

“Dad, why did you ask me to wish for knowledge, wealth & health to God?”

“Well, you have to wish to God to get what you need.  You might have problems that you can’t solve, you might need support to overcome hurdles. You should always pray to him to be with you as a saviour.  Not only that, You have to thank him for what he has given you”. I replied gently.

My son kept quite for some time and then told me “Dad, you know what, Mom helps me in my home work without even asking her, she voluntarily consoles me or grants me when I cry for something, she knows when I am hungry and feeds me at right time.  Isn’t she better than God?

Now both me and my wife started staring at each other. He continued “If God is the creator of the universe and people, why can’t he take the responsibility of taking care of us. We humans didn’t ask God to create the universe and us. Why should we thank him for what we didn’t wish for. Why should we ask him or pray to him to give us health, wealth & knowledge.  That means, is he not doing his job correctly? Is he forgetting things frequently that we have to remind him through prayers? Or is he an egoistic head weighted person who will give us what he supposed to give us only if we shower him with prayers?

My wife lost her patience this time. She can’t digest his argument anymore. Moreover, it was clearly visible that she couldn’t answer his questions that easily which increased her temper. She yelled at him “Stop it. You don’t understand. You have time to grow. Once you are grown, you will understand it in detail.” And then at me  “Now let’s leave. We can’t keep committing sin in this place”. We left the temple.

On that night, I couldn’t sleep properly. I was trying to find answer for my son’s questions more importantly  with Logic.

That restless thought through process inside me  discovered the reality.  What I  realized was, it’s our insecurity that keeps us afraid of God, keeps us do the prayers to appease or impress God. Most of us are thinking God only as a supporting system. We don’t have respect towards God, instead we have fear.

Since I am working on an IT firm, I tried to correlate God and his creation to an IT company CEO and his employees.  An Engineer who is working on the company, faces any issues, obviously  will reach out to his team mates first, then to his team lead and then may be to his Project Lead at a last chance. For sure he will, get his answers within that circle. Because based on their adequate experience in the industry they can always help them. An Engineer never takes the issue to the CEO of the company and neither the CEO will have the time to address such small issues. According to the CEO, it is a junk issue even though the issue might look big from that Engineer perspective. That’s why we have the hierarchical model in the IT company.

If we apply the same theory to our life, when we have problems, we can always approach our friends, our neighbors, Parents or even our Grandparents who might have actually faced such things in their life based on their experience. They can be our better support system. For sure we can get the answer within that circle. But unfortunately we keep ourselves closed, build insecurity and directly want to take the issue to GOD who is our CEO. More than we respect God, all we need is not to disturb God who has given us an employment in this world to run his creation successfully. If we do our duties honestly and efficiently, he will get good revenue and so as we get our promotion.

But I seriously believe in the fact that our Ancestors are way too intellectual than us despite no advanced science during their time. The point they wanted to convey us was somehow, somewhere misinterpreted and passed over.  Until we ask questions, get clarified and teach the same, we can’t seed positive thoughts to our next generation kids.

A detailed description of the road with a speed breaker is better than putting an “Accident Prone Zone” sign board.

Traveling Inward

One fine day when I decided sharing one of my life time thrilling experience to others, I was much confused on how to describe the same. For sure, I am not a poet to use attracting words to exaggerate the reality, I am certainly not a great story narrator as well to give the exact pause or emphasize to make the context more interesting. But  what I decided then is, the life time experience what I had, shouldn’t be left inside me for life long without being useful for others. So I believe the right intention what I have won’t be overruled by some grammatical mistakes and sentence making which then makes it perfectly a BLOG :-).  With that note, hope I have now brought your expectation rightly set :-).

Before start sharing about my own personal experience which I will call henceforth a real life story, I want to talk about myself – the hero of the story.

My greatest strength that I would like to call out is certainly my honesty and patriotism. When it comes to the negative side, the list goes on and on.

I am basically short tempered, un-satisfied, live in dreams, very intense critic, thrive for success, have inferiority complex. .The biggest problem I found in myself was my uncontrolled anger which shows me as a Villain even for my wife at times.  The inferiority complex developed with in me due to some deficiencies I have actually dragged me to an extent to become jealous on others who I presumed the perfect creation. The Society where I grew also played a vital role in my character devastation by ignoring my positives and teasing at my problems. . The frustration developed inside me made me a hard core critic. If I found something wrong or not in perfection, I criticize that to the core and with improper language. Soon, my negative vibrations started impacting even my kids and in their behaviors.  I was helpless and hopeless to come out of this monstrous character and obsession which I even started disliking and afraid of.

Days went by. One fine day, a person who I knew before cause of her dynamic personality approached me and wanted to talk to me for some time.  She was one of the few people who I got admired (jealous …in my own terms). Her age didn’t match her thoughts and sentences. Very matured. She was trying to convey me about something called reincarnation and regression therapy. To be honest I have never heard of it or would have never given attention to it. The so called scientific approach to anything, which I was taught by modern science all these days didn’t allow me to accept the artifacts she presented in front of me about reincarnation and regression therapy. But I was overwhelmed by the fact that her intention was simply good.  Her ready to help attitude impressed me and made me  listen to her and cooperate. She wanted me to go through regression process and she was ready to help me in that. All she wanted from me was a date to fix the appointment. Her soothing voice & magnetic eyes convinced my ego to accept for a regression therapy. But still the notorious character inside me was keep yelling at me to prove her wrong and embarrass her. We fixed a time to meet and go through the regression process.

One day before the scheduled date to meet, she messaged me some precautionary steps to follow. Things like no intaking of alcohol, coffee/Tea, take good rest and breakfast. Though I desperately wanted to break that rules, the words came from my wife “Why can’t you even respect the people who cares about you?”  gave a tight slap to my inner voice and ego.

I went to her Studio (her friend’s house) where she was doing her regression sessions. She asked me to relax for some time. She was carrying some papers with her and a laptop. She gave me a brief presentation on regression and re-incarnation. I was nodding as if I understood everything. I was more curious about the session I am about to go through. Honestly I was not much listening to her. But her voice is so powerful (not loud when I mean it)  that it was some how entering in to my head even though I didn’t listen to her much. I even asked her ” Is this hypnotizing?”. I was very proud of myself asking that silly question not even even realizing that I am insulting her credibility. But she gently smiled and replied “Hypnotizing is keeping you not aware of what you are doing. Regression therapy is something which you are talking to your inner voice or the subconscious mind. Here you will be very much conscious and in self-control. Don’t worry you wont reveal your credit card number to me”.  Her cute response with humour justified her statement. I couldn’t argue further.  After  a 15 minute of presentation, we started the session. I sat on a sophisticated chair. It was designed for such sessions I guess. She then asked me to talk openly from the bottom of my heart and tell her the problems I am having. She was carrying papers with multiple question sets. I started narrating her the various incidents that impacted me in my childhood, the obsession I have with in me, about my anger. She looked like a stenographer who can write things very fast up on listening. I was keep telling her a lot about my personal life. She was making notes of each an every thing. Trust me it needs practice and patience.  I am not sure, I could have opened up to some one so much about myself. As I said earlier, she has the magic to turn people to match her wavelength based on her questions and kindness.  I slowly started believe in her confidence and her efforts. After some time of conversation, she asked me to relax by playing a video that displayed the beauty of nature with a pacifying music.  The vibration in the room was extraordinary and I could feel it. I was so excited.

After the video, she asked me to gently close my eyes and follow her instructions.  After that All I was hearing was her rhythmic voice. The feeling I had was not manipulating , instead someone  holding your hand and taking you to a journey of new era. She was triggering my subconscious to talk to me. She took me to my childhood days. I was almost seeing a movie or should I say that a documentary? I don’t know how to explain. Her instructions to imagine scenaries gave me positive energy and  I felt like I am on an adventure trip.

She was very patient throughout the process. At times, I even went asleep. She brought me back to conscious mode and drove me in the journey frequently.  Very soon I was asked to travel to another life. I even felt like some negative energies trying to  stop me. But her voice was very commanding that gradually took me altogether to a different scene.  For the next  hour what was rolling through my mind was something which I couldn’t forget in my life. I am sure it couldn’t be my creativity or imagination. She was orchestrating the whole drama. She was guiding me to find answers of who am I , what I was doing then, who am I related to and so on?

Even though the scene I saw broke my heart, it somehow correlated to the behaviour I have in my current life. I felt very bad of what I was. I travelled to various stages of that life. I even could see how I died. If some one telling me this, I won’t believe it either until I experience it. I felt very hard and low in energy. I decided finally to come out of the life which She agreed to help me with.

The returning process was also smooth. I opened my eyes finally.

She was sitting next to me with all the patience in the world. I asked her for water and my immediate next question was what’s the time? I couldn’t believe what she said. It was 3 PM in the evening. We started the session at 12 PM if I was remembering correct. I felt like I just had a roller coaster ride.  The beauty was, she captured every thing what I told her and shared  the document with me.  I thanked her for helping me travelling inward. I told her that she is one person that I can never forget in my life.  She smiled gently.

What this whole experience has taught me? Certainly a lot. Every actions will a have an equal and opposite reaction. But it was not something that started when Newton invented it. It was existing from the day the universe was created.  That is what is happening. Our every reaction in our current life had an Action in our Past life. If we understand the core reason for what we are reincarnated  into this world, we would certainly  make ourselves happy and meaningful. Until we realize the fault and correct them, we won’t be meaningful for ever.

If you ask me “Life after Death exist?” I would say NO. According to me it is actually ‘Life after a Life” which do exists.

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