I thought for thousand times before writing this blog as this is something which we all ignore or in other words won’t bother in our day to day life. Kindly do not presume that I am a doctor or psychologist or any sought of expert on this peculiar subject. But I strongly believe that I have documented here something I have keenly witnessed, read and experienced in my own life. I thought it is my responsibility to deliver my thought to wake up my society at least to realize the most outrageous character we are slowly developing inside us. For people who have read my articles before may find little restless after reading this blog and I can guarantee that you will remember it then and there from now on in your future. Most importantly you will start observing the behaviours of others a lot that will bring the fear inside you about the society we are living in.
Let me start on this on a lighter note.
A couple of months back I was watching a movie in my hometown with my family in a movie theatre. This movie was running well and hence we decided to go for it. The best part in that part movie was both the hero and the villain were given equal importance. The Villain of that movie was characterized in such a way that he is a brainy and does all the criminal activities to make money. The scenes and dialogues were presented in such a way that at one stage the audience started clapping for the villain instead for the hero. In Fact there was a song as well in the movie based on the villain’s punch dialogues which became a great hit. The movie was a great hit as well. The interesting part is, those dialogues from the villain were praising the negativity around us and what all actions one can do to achieve what he wants in life. Basically the point conveyed was “Bad always wins“. But if you see the recognition it has got……I hope you are getting what I am trying to convey. Just like everyone else, I didn’t take this so serious and I thought it’s the credit given to the villain based on his performance which could also be one of the reason.
Let me get in to little more deeper on this.
A month back I was watching a video presentation in which Patrick Lencioni the Author of the best selling book book “Five Dysfunctions of Team” was presenting about leadership qulities. During his session he said and I quote “when I wanted to name my book, I thought why would I name a book something like “The Five best ways to Improve a Team” which is not catchy at all and who would like it. So let me name it as “Five dysfunctions of a team” which will increase the curiosity for the readers.” Now when I heard this , I got surprised and that’s the time I started thinking about it even more deeply. Now you might say that it is a marketing technique and it is quite common in the present world. But if you think in the other way, why this type of marketing is getting successful? Do we start liking negativity?
I wanted to test that immediately. After reaching my home I asked my wife to answer me quickly a question. The Question I put to her was “Which one will you pick to read if you see two news in a newspaper printed together? 1) A Poor farmer’s daughter gets top rank in Academics. 2) A college student killed her professor who tried to molest her. Surprisingly and shockingly her option was 2. I put this question to two of my other friends as well. Unfortunately no difference in the answer. Now I am even more disturbed. I was in a shell shock that I didn’t realize this all these days or I have ignored it.
Let’s get even more deeper.
If you have an addiction to popular social medias like Youtube, whatsapp or Facebook, you might notice this. If you receive a video or post with disturbing or violent actions, your inner voice will tempt you to watch it and then later want to feel for it. But you won’t stop watching it and beyond to that, you will even share it with others. This is what the beginning stage of so called Sadistic Personality Development. Despite discouraging the inappropriate actions in the video you will be curious to watch till the end and share it. And the interesting part is such videos will have a detailed description or title name of the inappropriate action inside the video. The description/title is not to keep the audience aware of the content, but to increase their curiosity. And shockingly this works. More and more such videos are uploaded to earn more clicks, likes and views. In most of the time, we even will not care about the integrity and authenticity of the information we receive, we immediately forward them out of curiosity. We are slowly conquered without our conscious.
Another example would be, if there is a heated argument between two persons in a road side and when you are crossing by that, you will be more interested to stand by and listen to that. Deep inside your mind, you would expect the argument to end up in a fight and then explaining that incident later to your friends will be your ultimate satisfaction. I am sure many of you would have experienced it but would have not noticed this weird behaviour inside you. You would have seen in television as well where some people try to record with their mobile phones in incidents like a guy suffering from severe pain in a road accident, a vehicle catching fire or a person by mistake fell inside a Tiger cage and get attacked. Why didn’t those people focus on helping the victim instead of clicking snaps.
Once my Wife’s friend was telling her in a get together that she will beat her kid if she does something naughty. If the kid doesn’t cry, she will continue to beat her till she cries. Once the kid started crying , she will stop beating and start pampering her. Don’t you find this weird. Yes it is and she didn’t realize her problem. Many of us do so.
People who are living a comfortable life having three times healthy food, good clothes to wear and a good shelter to reside are still affected by this problem. It doesn’t matter what kind of luxurious life we are living, the percentage of this sadistic behaviour is keep increasing among us.
Now let’s talk about the solution for this which is very hard to conclude.
According to a famous British Psychologist Dr. Graham Davey and I quote “Negative news can significantly change an individual’s mood — especially if there is a tendency in the news broadcasts to emphasize suffering and also the emotional components of the story”
A famous study says that being frequently exposed to graphic, uncensored images of violence is emotionally distressing to many journalists working in newsroom settings. The journalists who were regularly exposed to violent video footage scored higher on indexes of post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD)– including re-experiencing, avoidance and general anxiety — as well as increased alcohol consumption, depression, and somatization (physical signs of distress in the body).
The first step we need to do is to protect our next generation kids from such negativity. Kids addicted to social medias will definitely improve the signs of Sadistic personality development.
The best medicine I could imagine for now to cure this would be Meditation. With proper and regular Mediation, gradually we can keep this behaviour under control.
Together let us all focus on bringing a new society and young generation that buries the hate, shower the love and care for each other.